:-/ ouch. can you text her? if so, send a text saying that you're sorry, and that you weren't trying to trivialize her feeling at all. ask if there's anything you can do to help.
send her an email being apologetic, offering her to reach out to you when she felt she could, that you were trying to make her laugh and that it obviously back-fired.
It isn't about your needs right now. She was feeling down before you screwed up and now she feels worse. This is about her needs not yours. Send her an ecard stating how stupid you are if you must.
finally got a SMS delivery report, tonight at 2am. called her back, and asked how she was filling. she sounded really tired, and I asked if she would accept my apology and she answered : "yeah, what ever" so I pretty sure she is still pissed at me.
Take it as a learning lesson to think before you speak. And that you don't always have to speak. And that us girls take your words to heart. Most importantly, there is no reward for being fasted on IM.
I guess she is in the same place as you... I once (or more?) hurt your feelings and dont think that you ever did/will forgive me! even after I (tried) to apologise.
I guess i'm slow learner and with that i lose my best friends too.... specially ladies.
Loss of trust can be very hard to regain. Of course, I'll never understand women and always get it wrong. Generally when I give advice about lady troubles I precursor it with "usually i'm wrong so you should probably do the opposite".
Still I hope it works out for you. I'd imagine all you can do is apologise clearly and leave that with her. If she can't forgive you for one accidental slip of the finger, well I think that's a bit much.
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what did you say?
9 months, 3 weeks ago by nathalie531
@nathalie531: she was/is feeling sad... I asked why. she replied "i dont know" and I (stuppidly) loled.
She got hurted and went offline.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
:-/ ouch. can you text her? if so, send a text saying that you're sorry, and that you weren't trying to trivialize her feeling at all. ask if there's anything you can do to help.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by nathalie531
I did! she just replied: "that's how we know how ppl are. bye!"
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
lol is dangerous.... just apologize when she gets on and be honest
9 months, 3 weeks ago by grasiani
I don't know what else to do! I really like her (as friend) and would hate for something as trivial as some stupid words on IM to ruin our friendship
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
Give her time and space. Don't get in her face.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by CaffeineJunky
but but but..... I NEED to hear her voice, once again! I can't rest now!
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
send her an email being apologetic, offering her to reach out to you when she felt she could, that you were trying to make her laugh and that it obviously back-fired.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by chibbigirl
It isn't about your needs right now. She was feeling down before you screwed up and now she feels worse. This is about her needs not yours. Send her an ecard stating how stupid you are if you must.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by CaffeineJunky
thanks Betty! that sound nice hope she even reads it!
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
I'm stupid... everyone knows! and the more I write the worse it gets!
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
email sent! hope it heals!
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
just an update on this.
finally got a SMS delivery report, tonight at 2am. called her back, and asked how she was filling. she sounded really tired, and I asked if she would accept my apology and she answered : "yeah, what ever" so I pretty sure she is still pissed at me.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
give the girl some freaking space.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by CaffeineJunky
@CaffeineJunky: i'm giving her all the space I can.... i wont talk to her again.....
if she wishes she can come to me anytime!
i'm sad. i really liked her
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
Take it as a learning lesson to think before you speak. And that you don't always have to speak. And that us girls take your words to heart. Most importantly, there is no reward for being fasted on IM.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by CaffeineJunky
@CJ yeah I'm hopping that is the lesson here.
I guess she is in the same place as you... I once (or more?) hurt your feelings and dont think that you ever did/will forgive me! even after I (tried) to apologise.
I guess i'm slow learner and with that i lose my best friends too.... specially ladies.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
I forgave you. I just don't trust you. You have to earn that back by proving you won't do it again. But I forgive you.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by CaffeineJunky
humm that was exactly what she said!
are you her? (ok i was about to put a 'lol' here, but i remembered last time i did that....)
9 months, 3 weeks ago by BUGabundo
Ah it looks like you are learning :)
Loss of trust can be very hard to regain. Of course, I'll never understand women and always get it wrong. Generally when I give advice about lady troubles I precursor it with "usually i'm wrong so you should probably do the opposite".
Still I hope it works out for you. I'd imagine all you can do is apologise clearly and leave that with her. If she can't forgive you for one accidental slip of the finger, well I think that's a bit much.
9 months, 3 weeks ago by alexleonard